The theme of this season is Home. Valentina shares what Home means to her. Each Home edition will feature the voices of women. You can also contribute your own by sending through an entry of what home means to you by filling in the form on www.alishamorenike.co
The theme of this season is Home. Valentina shares what Home means to her.
Each Home edition will feature the voices of women. You can also contribute your own by sending through an entry of what home means to you by filling in the form on www.alishamorenike.co
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Alisha 0:09
On this episode, Valentina shares her story of home.
Valentina 0:15
What memories creates this feeling of home? It is having your dinner cooked and knowing that after dinner you are gonna go back to your room or play. It is picking up autumn leaves with your dad. It's your mom cooking in the kitchen is the security that your home will always be there for you. You will always have a safe space for you to live. It's you never questioning where you belong. When I speak about home I only think of the joyful memories despite their having been so much conflict and me responding to external five responses with fight and flight me believing that the only way for me to cope was to separate myself and to distance myself as far as possible. It's not the first thing that came to me when I thought about home. I do realise that this conflict belongs at home the way that I verbalise it was it's so hard at home. It's not safe at home. It's not comfortable at home. But the idea of home is comfortable, it's comfort, it's cosy, it's supportive, you're held, it's warm. That's home. I love recording this because it made me link back the fact that you are your home, your body is your home. And so these joyful, warm feelings of home is coming back home from picking up leaves in autumn. Home is baking cake in a Sunday afternoon. Home is your mother in the kitchen preparing you a delicious warm meal. Home is eating dinner and going back to your room or playing after and going to sleep and not feeling like you're taking up space you don't have any guilt because this space is for you. It's where you belong. Having repeated these words or having accessed or having verbalise how I describe home, and connecting that to the idea of you are your home. You can find home wherever you go, your body is your home. It's really beautiful because you can incorporate and you can try to access those feelings wherever you are with meditation with stillness with music, or with very small things like the way you cook you can cook in a way with smells that at a speed that remind you of home. And that is very beautiful and kind of like the heartbreaking thing of becoming an adult where all these super beautiful memories I remember as a child with regards to home, become your treasures and now that I'm like with a little girl in this house, I see her and the way like she rolls around and she asked everyone to play with her and her life is about eating and chocolate and playing and crying and throwing a tantrum for whatever is happening and everyone is there to support her and to hold her. I see her and I'm like wow like that is like the best part of home and when you're experiencing it as a child because you know that everything is there for you. And that is such a blessing.